A few ways not to be a buzz kill when someone tells you that they are expecting a baby…
Do not assume that the pregnant woman telling you her happy news is lying.
Do not by any means pretend to ignore the news.
Do not say “Again, but you just lost a baby”.
Do not think that you are more worried than we are.
Do not say “how many tests did you take, are you really sure??”
Do not assume if you are being told in February that the October is due date is over a year away.
Do not remind me that I have a child that keeps me busy, I promise, I already know that.
Do not remind us of our previous bumpy luck, we have not forgotten.
Do not start to say something and then stop and say “I just don’t want to make you mad”.
Do not attempt to stick your head in the oven. (Yes this really did happen)
Ok, so these are all very really statements that we have encountered. Seriously??? Yes. I have wanted to just shake some of these people, but what do you do if they are family? I have mastered the art of ignoring them, or kindly letting the offender know that I keep a journal of stupid things that people say and they just made the book.
Sorry I had to get that off my chest. I will post happy thoughts later.
